Slivers and Silver Linings

The world will break your heart ten ways to Sunday, (and so will people). That's guaranteed. I can't begin to explain that or the craziness inside myself or anyone else. But guess what? Sundays my favorite day again ( we've excepted what is, worked on it and made the best of it). 

Every. Single. Person. has reasons for why they are the way they are.

We are shaped by our choices. We lay in the bed we make, and sometimes we don't always have control over things that happen in our lives.

BUT

the one thing I do believe in is the ability to choose how we react to things that happen to us. 

We decide if we will lay there in a pile of despair and pain, panic and anxiety, depression and all those other juicy emotions and reactions that occur when bad things occur in life ( which eventually they will occur). Or we can decide to feel those emotions and deal. Digest, and rest, and then decide to get back up, pick up the mess, and move forward.

I think this is what I love about the movie Silver Linings Playbook. I believe that there can be a silver lining to every situation in life. I've been through my share of pits and falls. I've had to crawl my way back to mental health, and happiness more than once. I can tell you the way I viewed things made the biggest difference. 

Just like Patt I've talked to a councilor when I had an emotional break down, though mine didn't involve beating someone, all though in that moment I don't think I would have put it past myself, if not physically, then a verbal beating or lashout. 

I had to do what I needed to do to become healthy again, and part of that journey was realizing that being strong isn't always what we need to do. Sometimes being open to feeling your emotions is the way that you can heal and accept things. 

SO a truth that i've come to believe is that sometimes Bad shit happens to people, people will do bad shit to themselves, and to others sometimes. It doesn't always make sense. The one thing that does matter is how you react, and fix the problems that pop up in life, caused either by yourself or your reactions to other peoples decisions, that are out of your control.( like Patt catching his wife cheating on him) 

My favorite quote from Sliver Lining Playbook is this one. Hands down, I can relate to this so much. 

I just love it. And yes, maybe i'm a little twisted and weird, but this movie is easily one of my

 favorites. 

This is another quote, towards the end of the movie, which I love, and it gets me every single time I watch this movie, which has been a few times. As I've mentioned in previous posts, it took me a while to come around to the idea of dating Mark, and it's because I was somewhat like Patt, stuck up on someone who I didn't fit with. If Mark were a character in this movie he'd be his own version of Jennifer Lawrence, character, because he was battling his own daemons, but much like her, he remained patient with me, and tried to help me overcome my personal battles and daemons that plagued me. 

This is probably why the part of the movie where Patt chases JLaw down and tells her that He loves her, and that he is sorry it took him so long to catch up brings tears to my eyes every time. Its such a raw emotion to me, and hits close to home. . I just love it! 

 I often find myself thinking how grateful I am for the people in my life who have been patient with me. Not just Mark, lord knows he really was, like a saint. My friends and family too. We need people to help us sometimes, we need support groups to validate our feelings, and tell us when were being crazy, and to distract us from the crazy in our own brains, and also to dance with us through our own personal rain storms. 

As a side not, I also think Bradley Cooper and Jennifer Lawrence were excellent in this movie!

So Slivers and Silver Linings is the title of my blog .I think sometimes through the pain that life brings us, there are silver linings. It's about finding the good in the bad situations, and moving forward in life with a different perspective.